Stay with the person unless there is risk of harm to yourself. Studies show that most people will not harm themselves if they are with someone. You don’t need to say much and there are no magic words. If you are concerned, your voice and manner will show it. Show patience and caring. Avoid arguments and advice giving. Be supportive.

What might seem trivial to you can be overwhelming and consuming to the person in pain. If the person is saying: : “I can’t go on”, ask: “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” You are not putting ideas into their head; you are showing that you take it seriously, and that it is OK to share their pain with you. Ask, “How can I help?”, then Listen for them to answer. Ask, “Is there someone you’d like to talk with?”, then Listen for an answer. Don’t be afraid of the silence. It might take a bit for them to be able to form an answer for you. Reassure them that you will be here for them, or will go with them, if they want.

The person receiving the card or cry for help, does not have to be a counselor. We just ask that you ‘Be a link’, be a lifeline…call for help. Call their parents, a counselor, minister, someone they ask for.

Youth – call your parents, their parents, another trusted adult – 911!

Adults – call their parents, other help or 911.

Studies show that the crisis peaks just prior to a suicide attempt and is often a temporary crisis. The danger level decreases as much as 90% with contact with, and by talking to, people. Suicide is often an impulsive act for teens.